Jena L. Peterson BSHS
Discutie sustinuta la ALL Conference, Arizona
, 23 aprilie 2016
„Autenticitate prin conexiune”
Nu sunt sigur ce este mai penibil, eu purtand cercei si ruj periculos, sau eu stand aici in fata tuturor. Crescand eram o fata destul de atletica. Stii, sfertul de cartier si altele. Eram Steve Young. Mereu m-am gandit ca ar fi misto nu doar sa-l cunosc pe Steve, ci si sa vorbesc cu el. Ei bine, am un mic secret sa-ti spun, fiind femeia homosexuala care sunt, a fost mult mai interesant pentru mine sa vorbesc cu Barb si sa vorbesc cu ea decat cu tine Steve. Nici o suparare. Ma simt onorat si umilit sa fiu in prezenta unor oameni atat de uimitori, cinstiti si iubitori, pe care ii iubesc atat de profund. Pentru aceia dintre voi care nu ma cunosc, sunt un mormon deschis homosexual casatorit cu minunatul meu sot. Impreuna avem trei copii. Rugaciunea mea este ca inima mea sa te atinga intr-un fel de a ta si sa poti simti din dragostea mea pentru tine. Ma rog sa poti simti autenticitatea si puterea din spatele povestii mele, in timp ce iti exprim multe experiente care au afectat cine sunt. Povestea mea este o poveste de durere, speranta, vindecare si fericire. Desi viata mea ar putea arata diferit de multi dintre voi, toti avem ceva in comun si asta este durerea. Ca oameni, cu totii dorim vindecare si fericire.
M-am nascut intr-o familie minunata cu doi parinti iubitori, un barbat si o femeie, trebuie sa notez asta in aceasta multime. Crescand, Evanghelia a fost intotdeauna centrul vietii mele si m-am simtit binecuvantat si fericit. Cand treceam din copilarie in stadiul de adolescenta, puteam spune ca sunt putin diferita de alte fete de varsta mea. In timp ce frecventam Institutul intr-o zi, un prieten apropiat mi-a imbratisat. Am experimentat fluturi in stomac si, pentru prima data, am simtit sentimente romantice fata de o femeie. Eram emotionat si confuz. Cum as putea avea aceste sentimente pentru o femeie? A fost atat de nevinovat si a venit ca un astfel de soc pentru mine. Am scos cu credinta aceasta experienta departe, sperand ca Mantuitorul va rezolva lucrurile.
Dupa ce am indeplinit o misiune uimitoare si implinitoare in Auckland, Noua Zeelanda, am inceput sa ma intalnesc. Viata mea de intalnire a fost distractiva in cea mai mare parte, dar mi s-a parut intotdeauna putin penibila. Chiar m-am straduit sa fac legatura cu un barbat. La 26 de ani am inceput sa ma intalnesc cu un barbat minunat pe nume Todd. M-am simtit in siguranta cu el si am crescut sa-l iubesc profund. Dar m-am straduit sa gasesc sentimente romantice pentru el. La noua luni dupa ce am inceput intalnirea, am decis sa ne casatorim. Sigilarea noastra in templu a fost speciala si puternica, intrucat spiritul a fost martor si validat casnicia noastra eterna. Dar, cateva zile mai tarziu, am simtit o deconectare ciudata care a fost extrem de confuza si dureroasa pentru mine. Am continuat sa ma rog ca sa pot simti o legatura stransa si romantica cu Todd.
A couple of years into our marriage, everything came together for me and started to make perfect sense. I had a best friend whom I loved with all of my heart. She and I had everything in common and seemed to click in a very real, emotional, and romantic way. I very innocently fell in love with her, and she fell in love with me. Through many conversations and self-reflection, I came to the understanding that I’m gay. I was able to recall my experience in college, and make sense of other female relationships I had growing up. I also had some special experiences where the spirit witnessed to me of my sexual orientation. But how could I be gay? I didn’t think this happened to obedient Mormons. I opened up to my husband not long after my discovery. He assured me that he still loved me and would be there for me. Over the next few years I experienced severe anxiety, depression, and shame. I also felt a completeness as I was experiencing my orientation with a woman for the first time. The paradox inside of me was just too much to bare. I wasn’t quite sure how I would continue to make my life work or how I would ever be happy.
I was terrified and desperate for help because of how much pain I was in. I felt as though I had two hearts. Living with a gay heart and a Mormon heart was excruciating for me. I couldn’t figure out how to make the two hearts coexist with each other. I remained closeted and in pain for years. My mind told me I needed to choose one heart or the other, but I couldn’t. Both hearts meant so much to me and I couldn’t bare the thought of losing one or the other. I wanted to feel true, completely true to my orientation and honor my gay heart and live a life with Peg. (Alias name) But I loved Todd with all of my heart and wanted to live true to my covenants I made with him. I wanted to raise a family with him and experience the life I had always pictured in the church. But, something had to give. I couldn’t have it all. I had exhausted myself trying to make both relationships work. I loved both Peg and Todd so deeply. I was backed into a corner and there was no way out. After becoming suicidal, I was desperate for help and checked into the hospital. I remember that first night, I was in so much pain I couldn’t even bring myself to pray. In fact, I could barely breathe. My whole body felt as though it were in a dark abyss, one that would swallow me whole. I felt lost and scared. I honestly felt like I had died. If I were to choose my gay heart, I would lose Todd. If I were to choose my mormon heart, I would lose Peg, which meant to feel love and connection in a way that felt complete to me. I couldn’t handle the pain of either choice. I also couldn’t stay closeted any more, it was too painful to hide who I was. How on earth would I be able to come out as a Mormon mom? What about my children? I couldn’t see a way out or a path that would work. I was trapped in every way. After spending a week in the hospital, the doctors told me I was ready to go home and begin my long road to recovery.
Through the love of my husband, my best friend, my therapist, close friends and family I was able to begin my long road to becoming authentic. A few months after I was released from the hospital, I knew something needed to change.
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A mutual decision was made, which was the hardest decision of my life. Thru certain circumstances and personal revelation, I was directed to let Peg go. Peg deserved someone who could give her everything. She deserved to be out of pain as well. We all did. I decided to let Peg go completely and put my life in God’s hands. I needed to heal. I so desperately needed to begin to heal after losing my best friend and soul mate of 10 years. But how could I ever function or enjoy life again? I had dealt with significant loss in my life, but never anything this painful.
I knew I had years of healing ahead of me, and possibly off and on for the rest of my life. Through prayer and many conversations with my husband, I decided to take a leap of faith in my healing process. As a young missionary in New Zealand my mission president taught about the Atonement in great depth. It was now time for me to put my faith and knowledge wholeheartedly into my Savior. To become whole, and to heal, I needed to do what the savior did. I needed to give my heart, love, and service to others. I needed to become a voice and share my story. I knew that to become like the Savior, I could do what he did. I put my faith in Him and became a tool in His hand. I had pure faith that if I shared my heart and my story that God would send people to me to help me heal. I needed people to sit with me, mourn with me, comfort me, and validate me. God has provided that for me as I have opened my heart to the world. I have seen miracles take place as God has placed angels in my life, which many of them are here today. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the Cooks reentered my life after being in the same ward 23 years ago. In fact, I used to babysit their children. Hey, now that I think of it, maybe I’m the reason they are gay. It’s not a coincidence that one of my closest friends parents are here. God has His hand in our lives. I have felt a deeper connection with people than I ever thought possible. I have experienced healing to my shredded heart by allowing people in. I think it’s important to acknowledge that when I refer to healing, I’m not referring to healing my sexual orientation. It’s the healing of a shredded and broken heart. I’ve embraced my orientation as a gift from God. I hold a sacred characteristic within myself as a gay woman, which I’m so thankful for. I think it’s also important to point out that with my decision to continue life with my husband, I’m choosing to experience grief off and on for the rest of my life. I will feel grief from losing Peg, but also grief from not experiencing my orientation with a woman. I’m happily making this choice fully aware of the consequences. My husband is making a choice as well to remain married to me, fully aware of the consequences. But, our decision is personal and sacred to us, and we are happy. I love him with all of my heart and he loves me with all of his heart. For years I’ve prayed for the happiness I feel today. My life and my choices are specific to me, as I know my life may look different than other gay people. But, I do honor and respect the choices and paths of others, just as I hope you will do for me.
As Brene Brown so brilliantly states, “Authenticity is allowing our true selves to be seen.” “We invite compassion into our lives when we act compassionately toward ourselves and others, and we feel connected in our lives when we reach out and connect.” “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” “To practice courage, compassion, and connection is to look at life and the people around us, and say, “I’m all in.” It’s important for you to know that I’m all in; I’m on your team. God placed us on earth to learn to love and connect. It is my hope and prayer that you and I can work to save lives through God-like love and connection. God is our Father and He loves us unconditionally and His son Jesus Christ is the Savior of the world. His atonement is available to us and can assist us as we heal and become authentic. I love you, I love you, and if it matters to you I love you!
