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Caminul ei a fost inchis pentru carantina. Peste o luna imbatraneste din ingrijirea materna. Ce se intampla cand nu exista o plasa de siguranta?

Destiny Moura a biruit o copilarie abuziva si trafic de sex pentru a urma colegiul. Din cauza carantinei, ea si-a pierdut dormitorul, iar viitorul ei este incert. Credite … James Estrin / The New York Times

De Ginia Bellafante

15 mai 2020

Toamna trecuta, spre sfarsitul primului sau semestru la facultate, Destiny Moura s-a transformat intr-o lucrare pentru o clasa de compozitie engleza in care a descris introducerea ei, la varsta de 14 ani, la „viata” „„ viata ”. la exploatarea fetelor de catre proxeneti, traficanti, manipulatori.

In cazul Destinului, aceste abuzuri au dus la concluzia unei copilarii care nu a avut niciodata un inceput adecvat. O mare instabilitate a precedat acest punct; au urmat atata tristete si rusine. Dar pana la sfarsitul anului trecut, Destiny, la 20 de ani, s-a reconstruit, ca studenta la Borough of Manhattan Community College, cu o medie de 3,4 puncte.

Calatoria a fost insotita de recompense atat interne, cat si externe – i-au iubit cursurile si oamenii pe care i-a cunoscut. Ba chiar si-a iubit naveta in campusul BMCC din TriBeCa, dintr-o casa de grup din nordul orasului, unde a fost in plasament. In ianuarie, prin Proiectul Dormitoriu, o initiativa menita sa ii ajute pe copiii din sistemul de plasament din New York sa reuseasca la facultate, Destiny a primit cel mai semnificativ dintre aceste noi cadouri un loc propriu – o camera la un hotel rezidential, cu alti studenti. , in Midtown Manhattan.

Apartamentele pe care le impartise cu familia ei care creste in Bronx erau marcate de haosul dependentei. Noua ei camera era linistita si senina, cu vedere la Empire State Building. Bucuria de a o ocupa s-a incheiat brusc in martie, cand aparitia Covidului a golit caminele din intreaga lume, lasand Destinul fara un loc evident sau adecvat de mers.

Revenirea la casa de grup din Pleasantville nu a fost o solutie de durata. Pe 11 iunie, Destinul va implini 21 de ani – varsta la care majoritatea copiilor sunt descarcati din asistenta materna in statul New York, lasand in mare parte structura si serviciile pe care le ofera. Imbarcarea intr-o viata crescuta in timpul unei pandemii nu a facut decat sa complice si mai mult provocarile profunde ale tranzitiei de la asistenta materna la independenta, una care in circumstante obisnuite duce adesea la somaj si locuinta.

„Chiar si tinerii care pareau sa aiba planuri de viata solide dupa ingrijire, vad ca aceste planuri se evapora”, mi-a spus Kerry Moles, directorul executiv al CASA, o organizatie de voluntari care ajuta copiii in asistenta materna. Multi tineri de 20 de ani din sistem au, de asemenea, copii ai lor, care sunt acum in pericol.

Temandu-se de o crestere a acestor rezultate sumbre, la sfarsitul lunii trecute, un grup de avocati care pledeaza pentru copiii aflati in saracie, i-a scris guvernului Andrew M. Cuomo, cerandu-i sa emita un ordin executiv de suspendare a incetarilor din asistenta materna pentru 180 de zile in timpul actualei criza. Mai multe alte state, inclusiv California si Rhode Island, au facut deja ceva similar. Pana in prezent, nu s-a luat nicio masura.

Focarul de coronavirus a deraiat un sistem afectat de bunastare a copilului in moduri variate, toate deranjante. A separat copiii imperiliati de profesorii si administratorii care trebuie sa raporteze suspiciunile de abuz; a contractat sistemul instantelor familiale pentru audieri virtuale organizate numai in cele mai grave cazuri; a oprit vizitele importante intre mamele de nastere si copiii a caror custodie se antreneaza sa-si recastige.

Dar exista o tragedie distincta in naratiunea inversarii – a tinerilor atat de apropiati de pragul transformarii urmarind brusc linia indepartata spre un viitor pe care nimeni nu il poate prevedea.

Avand la dispozitie doar doua zile pentru a-si parasi camera de dormitor, Destiny s-a intors acasa, la apartamentul cu un dormitor pe care il impartise cu tatal ei, un alcoolic, si cu sora lui, inainte de a intra in asistenta materna la 17 ani.

“What is so heartbreaking about Destiny’s situation is that she worked so hard and then through no fault of her own is brought right back to the source of her trauma,” Rachel Lloyd, the founder of GEMS, an organization that helps sexually exploited girls, told me. “I’ve seen such a drop in her level of confidence.”

The first time I spoke with Destiny, she sounded buoyant, hopeful. “I know I am not where I am supposed to be,’’ she said. The next time, a day later, she seemed despondent, remote.

Ms. Lloyd, who has been speaking to her girls via Zoom during this period of confinement, said she can hear shouting in the background when she meets with Destiny. During one of these sessions, the support of the others was strong but limited. “Girls in the group were saying, ‘You’ve got this Desie; you can do it,’” Ms. Lloyd said. “But she hangs up the Zoom call, and she is right where she started.’’

Destiny had lived apart from her mother, whose own life had been given over to drugs. Her aunt had told her that one day, her mother had dropped her off for a visit and never returned. Whether or not this was true seemed unclear to Destiny. By the time she was in sixth grade, her problems were compounded by bullying at school. In ninth grade she was expelled from a charter school for getting into a fight. A succession of different schools followed, none of them had ignited any interest in learning.

The comforts of “the life’’ had come to seem greater than the comforts of home, she told me. Prostitution brought her things. “At home I wasn’t cared for; I needed money,’’ she said. “A lot of the women who were in the life felt OK about it and they were mother figures to me.” It would take time for her to see what a mistake it was to elevate them that way.

Throughout all of this, with each new school, Destiny told me, “I would hope for a moment of enlightenment.’’

Not long before her 19th birthday that epiphany finally came; she cannot explain it. Certain realizations had accumulated and were driving her forward. “It was a month or two of the same dingy hotel rooms, the back of people’s cars. I’d never seen myself like this,’’ she told me. “I needed to give my potential the moment it deserved.

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Her first stint at the group home in Westchester two years earlier had gone poorly. She would take off, either with friends or alone and rebel. She returned to the life. But now she had resolved to make changes and she quickly took the necessary steps. She called her social worker, left the Bronx, returned to the group home, followed the rules once she was there, got her high-school equivalency degree and enrolled at BMCC.

“I was still fighting the other me, but every day I pushed and pushed,’’ she said. “I fell in love with myself, I was getting up early, sleeping at night. I was on Metro North going somewhere.”

Among the well-off, there is little commitment to the idea that adulthood actually begins at 21. Around the country, in recent weeks, children have returned home from college to their own rooms, to privacy for remote learning, to parents who will bake a pie or roast a salmon or wash a sweater on demand.

Destiny’s next date in family court is in a few weeks. She hopes the system will find a way to accommodate her — she needs stable housing, braces for her teeth — but she isn’t sure that it will.

“I’ve had no kids, no pregnancies, no abortions,’’ she told me. “I did a 180 and I want to be accounted for.”

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