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Motivul numarul unu barbatii pierde brusc interesul

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De ce si-a pierdut interesul cand lucrurile pareau sa mearga atat de bine? Aceasta intrebare este prea comuna.

Asa se face ca, de obicei, totul se reduce. Intalnesti un tip si simti scanteia proverbiala. Numerele sunt schimbate, texturile flirty rezulta si, in cele din urma, mergeti la o intalnire … si este uimitor!

Chimia este puternica, te conectezi, te distrezi. Iesi din nou si e un alt as in gaura. Acum incepi sa te entuziasmezi … ar putea fi asta? Poate mai stai de cateva ori, dar ceva se schimba. Fie observi ca el incepe sa se indeparteze si pare mai putin logodit (cunoscut in mod obisnuit ca „fade away”), fie doar dispareste (fenomen cunoscut sub numele de „fantoma”). Te simti complet orbit si socat.

Ce a mers prost?

Iata de ce aceasta situatie este atat de confuza pentru majoritatea femeilor. Atunci cand o fata isi pierde interesul pentru un tip dupa cateva intalniri, ea poate, de obicei, sa identifice motivul. Poate ca era prea disperat, nu stimulase intelectual, prea linistit, prea tare, prea plictisitor, prea plictisitor – de obicei stie exact ce este faptul ca a oprit-o si poate oferi un motiv pentru care nu vrea sa continue sa-l intalneasca. daca a fost intrebat.

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Nu este intotdeauna asa pentru baieti. Un tip poate merge la cateva intalniri uimitoare cu o fata si sa se regaseasca brusc si inexplicabil pus de ea. In timp ce el anterior a trimis-o pe tot parcursul zilei si a simtit o dorinta puternica de a o vedea … acum nu are nicio dorinta de a o contacta. Acest lucru poate fi la fel de neplacut pentru baieti ca si pentru fete. Cand au fost intrebati, multi tipi vor spune ca nu stiu de ce au fost opriti brusc … au fost doar

Deci de ce isi pierd brusc interesul? Este intr-adevar din senin, fara cauza sau provocare? Nu, exista un motiv. Motivul pentru care este atat de greu de identificat si articulat este ca este extrem de subtil.

In primele intalniri cu un tip nou, vibratia dvs. este de obicei destul de relaxata si usoara. Vrei sa explorezi posibilitatile cu el si sa vezi despre ce este vorba. Incepe usor si distractiv, este vorba despre conectarea si bucurarea companiei celuilalt.

Dupa cateva intalniri grozave cu un tip aparent grozav, majoritatea femeilor nu se pot abtine sa se entuziasmeze de posibilitati. Se gandesc unde ar putea merge relatia si incep sa investeasca intr-un viitor fantastic.

Cand se intampla acest lucru, nu mai sunteti aici si acum, vazand situatia pentru ce este vorba. In schimb, mintea ta se concentreaza pe ceea ce ar putea fi si atunci cand devine o problema. Deveniti atasat de acest viitor fantezist si atunci nu va puteti abtine sa va stresati si sa va faceti griji ca il pierdeti (chiar daca nu ati avut ceva cu adevarat!). Atunci fricile si nesigurantele tale se ridica la suprafata si se arunca in interactiunile tale cu el.

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Incepi sa interactionezi cu gandurile din cap, mai degraba decat cu persoana din fata ta. In loc sa incerci sa inveti cine este si despre ce este vorba, te uiti la comportamentul lui si la lucrurile pe care le spune ca un mijloc de a masura cum se simte despre tine … si daca te apropii sau mai departe de obiectivul tau de a avea relatie cu el.

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Majoritatea baietilor pot intui intuitiv cand o femeie reactioneaza la ei ca obiect mai degraba decat ca persoana, atunci cand ea il foloseste ca mijloc de a umple un gol in ea insasi.

Tipii nu functioneaza in acest fel in relatii si el nu poate intelege pe deplin ce s-a intamplat pentru a transforma aceasta fata misto aparent fericita intr-o mizerie neplacuta, reactiva din punct de vedere emotional, care cauta reasigurari.

De ce facem asta?

Tot ceea ce isi doreste cu adevarat este sa se simta OK, iar majoritatea dintre noi nu.

When a woman worries and needs constant reassurance, it comes from a feeling of, “I am not OK” and the feeling beneath that is fear. What makes it so destructive is that it’s not an overwhelming, gripping fear; it’s a vague feeling of unease. It’s so quiet and subtle you may not even realize it’s there.

You know how sometimes you’ll go to take a sip of water and you literally can’t stop chugging? You didn’t even realize you were thirsty, it’s only when you begin to quench the silent thirst that you realize how potent it was.

That’s kind of what’s at play here.

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It’s tough for someone to nail down the source of feeling not OK, but they unconsciously latch onto things that will get rid of this feeling, usually through reassurance or trying to make situations come about that they feel will make them happy and finally grant them relief. This inevitably impacts your vibe, you become a parasite of sorts and everyone you come into contact with is simply a means to an end.

When you meet a guy who makes you feel OK, your need for that feeling becomes overwhelming and you latch on forcefully. You may not even realize you’re doing it; it’s not something you express outright. But it’s there and it comes across, even in the slightest ways. It changes your vibe and your energy and guys feel this.

At this point, instead of him feeling like he’s connecting with you, he feels like you’re trying to get something out of him. Maybe it’s reassurance or validation, or maybe just more of the feeling of being OK.

Guys don’t know exactly what it is, but suddenly their instincts are telling them to get away. This usually occurs at the point where the woman could no longer keep the act up. Maybe she’s trying to appear cool and go-with-the-flow, but in her mind she’s already thinking of ways to turn a relationship that’s really nothing at this point into something. From that point forward, it’s not easygoing and natural, it’s her measuring if she is getting closer or further from her goal.

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Everyone recognizes when someone has an agenda, it’s just something our intuition picks up on and it immediately puts us off. Think about how you feel when someone approaches you and tries to sell something. Your first instinct is typically to get far away from them. It doesn’t matter how nice and friendly they are, you can’t trust them because you know they want something out of you.

That’s the switch guys feel that causes them to lose interest. It’s the shift from things being easy and fun to agenda-driven. When the woman feels like she’s getting closer to her goal, she’s happy and elated. When something happens that makes her feel like she is moving further away, she is gripped by that, “My world is falling apart” feeling and may try to seek reassurance from the guy, either outright or subtly.

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You Can’t Force Love

When you take a relationship that is brand new and start thinking that it’s something, or forcing it to be more than it is, it’s game over. Your vibe will become man repelling and before long, he’ll be gone and you will be left baffled, analyzing what exactly you did to drive him away. But you won’t ever find the answer, because it isn’t concrete and measurable.

This is one of the main differences between men and women when it comes to relationships. Men are more in the moment and are able to comfortably enjoy a situation for what it is as it is. Women are always looking for ways to improve the relationship and push it forward. It’s not that one gender has it right and the other has it wrong. There needs to be a balance between enjoying the present and comfortably laying the foundation for a future.

It just can’t be done forcefully.

The best relationships are the ones that unfold organically with two people bringing their best selves to the table and discovering who the other person is and developing an appreciation for that person. It’s not about using the other person to gain status or self-esteem or security. A relationship can give you these things, but that’s a by-product, not the goal.

This is essentially the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic relationship. A healthy relationship is one where two people feel fulfilled by their individual lives and let that joy and sense of fullness spill into their relationship. They each bring something to the table and can comfortably give and receive. A dysfunctional relationship is when one or both people believes the other person can “give them” something or that there’s something to “get” from the other person.

So what’s the solution? If you just enjoy life and engaging with him and make nothing of it, your vibe will still be enjoyable to be around and he will continue hanging out with you. When he feels good around you, he’ll want to be around you. When he feels like you’re trying to get something out of him, he will want nothing to do with you. It really is as simple as that.

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I also want to add that this isn’t the only reason a man will lose interest, it’s just the most common and most misunderstood one. The problem is most people don’t accurately define what the problem is. It gets written off as the woman being too available and not making him chase her. That is not really what’s at play here. Being available isn’t the issue, the issue is really not being present. It’s an issue that comes from seeking validation through a relationship rather than in your life.

It is also worth noting that sometimes two people can be happy and satisfied in their lives and just not a match. Compatibility can’t be forced or created. It also can’t be ignored. If you’re incompatible, it will come to the surface eventually and a relationship can’t last without a foundation of fundamental compatibility. Make sure to read this article on exactly how to get over a guy who doesn’t like you back if that’s the situation you’re in.

The winning strategy when it comes to love is to bring your best self to the table and not stress over your relationship. Instead, trust that if it’s right it will work out, and if it’s not right you’ll be free to move toward something that is the right match for you.

I hope this article helped you determine if he’s losing interest in you. The good news is it’s a fixable problem. At some point, a man will lose interest and question the relationship. He isn’t as responsive or as excited by you. You’re afraid that you might be losing him. Do you know how to respond? If not, you could make things even worse so be sure to read this now: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…

The next relationship-deciding question a man will ask himself is: Do I want to commit to this woman for the long term? The answer will determine everything. Do you know what makes a man see a woman as girlfriend material? Do you know what inspires a man to commit? If not, you need to read this next The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman

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Motivul numarul unu barbatii pierde brusc interesul

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You Can’t Force Love

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